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3 Steps to Creating New Habits

Let’s talk about forming new habits. We all have times in our lives where we intentionally want to change our behavior for the better and create new habits for ourselves. This could be getting in the habit of eating healthier and drinking more water. Or it could be moving more and taking the dog for a daily walk. Or it could be work-related, or spiritual, or… There are so many areas in our lives that could be improved and made easier if we created new habits.

Getting into the habit of doing something is often easier said than done. We seem to acquire bad habits without any effort, but getting into a “good” habit can be a little more challenging.

Let’s break it down into a three-step process that makes it easy to follow until we’ve internalized the new behavior and made it a true habit – something we do automatically without having to think about, like brushing our teeth.

1. Decide What You Want To Do

The first step is to decide what you want that new habit to be. Be as specific as possible. Don’t just tell yourself you want to exercise more. Instead, say something like “I will go for a 30-minute walk every single day”.  Deciding what your new habit will be and committing to when and how you’re going to do it, is half the battle.

2.Remind Yourself To Get It Done

The next few days should be smooth sailing. You’re motivated and excited to get this done. Sticking to your new habit isn’t an issue. But a few days in you’ll notice that it’s easy to slip back into old habits.

Maybe it’s raining, and you don’t want to go out and walk. Or maybe your day just gets away from you. This is when it’s important to have a daily reminder. Set an alert on your phone or add the new habit to your daily to-do list for a while.

3. Make It Part Of Your Routine Until It Becomes A Habit

Which brings us to the last step. It takes some time before a new behavior becomes a true habit. Until then, a routine will work to your best advantage. Even before the new behavior becomes automatic, a routine will help you get it done without having to spend a lot of willpower or relying on daily reminders.

Make that daily walk part of your after-dinner routine, or change from grabbing a snack at the vending machine at work at 10:00 in the morning to packing a healthy snack.

Congratulations! Decide to create the new habit, practice the routine until it’s second nature and you’ll be well on your way to forming a new good habit.

The Inverse Relationship Between Habits and Willpower

It’s hard to keep up willpower for any length of time. Yes, we can stick to a low-fat 1,000 calorie diet and go hungry for a week or two, but eventually, our willpower fades. And yes, we can do exercise we hate for a while… until we run out of willpower.

But what about getting up to take the kids to school every morning, brushing our teeth or going to work every day. Those may not be our favorite things to do either, but we do them daily without the risk of running out of willpower. That’s because they have become habits. They are so ingrained in what we do and who we are that we do them without even considering skipping a day or a week. We don’t have to make a conscious decision each day to shower or drive to work. It’s just what we do – a habit.

When you start to think about it, there is an inverse relationship between habits and will power. When you first want to build a new habit, it takes a lot of will power to get it done day in and day out. As you start to establish that habit, it becomes easier and easier to do until you don’t even have to think about it anymore.

Just being aware of this process helps us stick it out. We know we don’t always have to make such a big effort to go work out or skip the donut for breakfast. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. We know eventually, it will become a habit to go out for a run first thing in the morning and grab some fruit or fix some eggs for breakfast.

While we’re in that transition from willpower to habit, we can use tools to make it easier. Use a to-do list or set a reminder to help stay on track. Find an accountability partner so the two of you can motivate each other and help bolster that willpower when it starts to fade after the first enthusiasm wears off. Even something as simple as laying out your running clothes the night before and keeping your sneakers by the door will make it a little easier to go out for that run.

Do what you can to help your willpower along until you have made the new behavior a true habit. After that, it’ll be easy and automatic, and you’ve created a new lifelong habit.

How Long Does It Take To Create A New Habit?

They say it takes 21 days to create a new habit. That’s kind of a weird idea though, isn’t it? It doesn’t take that long to form a bad habit. And sometimes no matter how hard we try it takes us a lot longer to form a new habit.

So how long does it take to create a new habit? The answer is that it depends. It depends on your mindset, and it depends on how big of a change it is from what you are doing now. If it is your habit to eat a bowl of ice cream at night and you switch from regular ice cream to a low sugar frozen yogurt version, it’s probably not going to take you very long to make that new habit. Giving up ice cream altogether though or cutting out all sugar, on the other hand, might take a lot longer.

When we ask that question, what we want to know is how long do we have to tough it out before it gets easier. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel where we don’t have to try so hard anymore? In other words, when will this new behavior become automatic?

While it will be different from one person to the next and even from one habit to the next, there are a few things to keep in mind.

It’s easier to make a new habit than get rid of an old one. Be prepared to work a lot harder to give up checking your email every 2 minutes or snacking late at night. Whenever possible, try to replace an old habit with a new one. For example, if you want to give up coffee, brew a cup of herbal tea in the morning and throughout the day when you would usually reach for your cup of Joe.

Habits will form faster if you stick to the same time and environment each day. Instead of going for a walk whenever, keep your sneakers next to the door and schedule your walk every day at 6 pm, right after dinner for example.

A constant reminder of why you’re trying to change your behavior is also helpful. Remind yourself every day that you’re exercising so your body stays strong and you can play with the kids or grandkids in the yard. Or put up a picture to remind you that you’re making frugal habits so you can one day purchase your dream home.

Keep your reason why you’re changing front and center and then be prepared to stick it out. Yes, it will take some time to make new habits and replace old ones. But it will be well worth it in the end.

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Occasionally, even if you want to do things, like going to the gym, going for a walk, get up at 5 a.m, knowing how great it is for your health and how fantastic you feel afterward, yet, you feel too lazy and would like to stay in your comfort zone. Maybe you are aware of the fact that you have to change your eating habits, exercise more and establish a balanced, healthy lifestyle, yet, you don’t feel that you have the inner power and doggedness to make the steps required. Does this ring you a bell? How
  1. Get Some Help – Simple Hacks To Help You Build New Habits

Creating new habits isn’t easy. Here are six simple hacks that will make it a little easier. Use them until you’ve internalized the new habit and don’t need them anymore.

2. Schedule It And Put It On The To-Do List

Sometimes we forget to do that new thing we were trying. Maybe we forget that we’re supposed to be having eggs for breakfast instead of a stack of waffles, or that we need to get that daily walk in.

Schedule your new habits or make them part of your daily to-do list until they become something you do automatically.

3. Make It Public and Be Accountable

Let family and friends know what new habits you’re trying to establish. They will call you out if you don’t stick to your plan and get you back on track.

You may even go as far as sharing it publicly on Facebook or write a blog about your new journey. Knowing that others read it and know about it might be just enough to keep you going when you feel like throwing in the towel.

4. Piggyback On A Habit You Already Have

Whenever possible, add the new habit to one you already have. For example, if you fix a cup of tea or coffee at 4 pm, and you want to get in the habit of taking a daily walk, make the new ritual of going for your walk and then coming back and enjoying your tea.

It’s much easier to amend an existing habit or ritual than creating an entirely new one.

5. Make Slipups Costly

Here’s a fun idea. Put a jar on the kitchen counter, and each time you slip back into your bad habit or forget to stick to the new one you have to put five dollars in the jar. It will quickly help you remember to skip that sugary food and motivate you to go out for that walk. For extra motivation donate the money to charity at the end of the month or hand it over to your spouse to spend on him or herself.

6. Find A Partner and Help Each Other Along

Find someone with the same or similar goal. This could be a workout partner or a diet buddy. Keep tabs on each other and encourage each other to keep going. It’s much harder to skip a walk if you know someone else is depending on you being there.

7. Make It A Group Challenge

If one accountability partner is good, a whole group is even better. And they don’t even need to be local. Find a supportive group online and challenge each other to stick to your new habit for the next 30 days or so. Not wanting to be the first one to give up will keep all of you going until you establish that new habit.

Give these simple little hacks a try. Keep using the ones that you find helpful until you have made new habits you can stick with without the help of any tools or support.

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8. Make It A Habit – The Benefit Of A Routine & Habit Filled Day

Do you have noticed that it gets harder to make decisions toward the end of the day? You’re too tried to figure out what to have for dinner or what to watch on TV. That’s because we all have a finite amount of decisions that we can make in any given day.

Knowing that helps us prioritize. We can cut out a lot of decision making by implementing habits and routines. That way we save them for the important stuff. It also frees brain space for more creative and productive thinking. Routines are a great tool that simplifies our lives and cut out a lot of our daily stress.

Chances are you already have a morning routine. You get up; you get your coffee, read the paper or check email and fix some toast before heading into the shower. Let’s expand on that. If you create a“uniform” for yourself, you don’t even have to think about what to wear. You just grab a pair of pants and a shirt, or a skirt, tights and sweater and off you.

Implement some routines into your workday wherever possible. Meal planning helps you figure out what meals to fix and eat. A cleaning schedule makes sure you stay on track with your household chores without you having to spend any valuable decision-making skills in the process.

Wrap your day up with a bedtime routine that not only helps when you’re too tired to make smart choices; it also helps you fall asleep more easily. What works for your toddler works for you as well.

Start by doing a few chores that make the next morning easier. Making sure the kitchen is clean, and the kids’ school things are in order are great examples. Come up with a few calming things that help you slow down and get ready for sleep. Read a book, listen to some music or wind down with a cup of herbal tea.

Sit down with a pen and piece of paper and think about what parts of your day and week you can turn into routines. Write them down and create daily to-do lists for yourself until you’ve established these new habits and routines.

Spending a little bit of time creating routines and habits will make your day run a lot smoother. You might find yourself less stressed and get more done during your productive hours. And that’s a beautiful thing. It allows you to save plenty of decision making for the fun stuff like figuring out what park to go to, what family movie to watch or what board game to play.

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With love and respect,

Tunde

Setting goals: WHY Goal Setting Is the Key to Success?

WHY Is Goal Setting the Key to Success?

Many a time you may have heard parents or elders in your house saying set a goal in your life if you want to achieve success. You may not have listened to them then, but have regretted later. Setting goals and accomplishing it is the only way to achieve success. There is no second way.

Setting a goal gives you all the emotional support to move forward in life to achieve success. Many factors play an essential role to achieve success. Motivation, optimism, pertinence, determinations, actions, confidence, faith, attitude and predicting capability all play a significant role when setting goals and in the process of achieving the goals. You can dream, and it is only you who can fulfill your dreams. Dreaming gives you the motivations to achieve success.

  • When you set a goal, you have some purpose in life. Further, you must update your goals constantly to keep pace with life. If you do not update your goals constantly as you progress, then you will lose track of your way and end up diverting from your road to success.

Therefore, the point is that even if you have a huge goal to achieve in life, you have to break it up into several small steps. These small steps are your everyday goals, which only if you achieve can bring you the huge achievement that you set in your life. Thus, it is all about strategic planning and management.

  • Accomplish small goals every day. To begin with, note down these small goals on a notepad, look, and visualize it every day, Think of innovative ways on how you can achieve these small goals. Take the necessary action and focus on the work you are doing. Be optimistic of the results. If you do these, they are on the right path.

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    Setting goals

It is also necessary to set deadlines as it helps you to achieve the goal within a certain time. Otherwise, you leave it for long and divert midway. Some people set goals that are not achievable. Avoid such mistakes as trying to achieve these types of goals are only a waste of time and confidence. You must know your strengths and weaknesses before you set a goal. Knowing your potential is very important when trying to achieve the desired goal.

Thus, goal setting and following it strictly is an important step to achieve success in your life. Without a goal, your life is a waste.

How to Set a Goal Successfully

Goal setting and planning are the two essential factors to get the results you desire. Making up your mind is the primary step when you want to achieve something. You may work hard throughout the day, but if you do not have the focus, that end goal, all your hard work goes to waste. Even though you can find many resources over the Internet on how to set a goal, but it is a personal experience that teaches you better than any books or resources. However, still, here are some tips on how to set a goal that will help you to some extent.

  • First, you have to be an optimistic person to achieve your goal. You have to hop for the positive and keep faith in you. If you have any doubts, write them down in a piece of paper and try to come to a solution. If you cannot find the solution yourself, then take help of close ones or those who have expertise in the niche.
  • Second, you have to visualize your wanting. Visualizations can instill confidence in you and only then you will have the “Go and Get it” attitude. Visualizations bring you closer to your wanting. You also need to visualize your steps to get the desired results. Analyze the risks involved in the tasks as well as the benefits involved. You must know the ratio between the benefit and risk.
  • Third, jot down your goals on a piece of paper. You must write both your short-term goals as well as long-term goals. For example, if you want to complete a certain task tomorrow, write that down and write the goal you have set after a year. Write everything in a proper table format. Haphazard writing will make you more obfuscated in your daily life and you will end up diverted from your goal. Therefore, write down everything neatly so that anyone can understand by just looking at it.
  • Finally, take action. Only if you set the goal without taking any action, it leads nowhere. Hence, take the actions that will make you reach closer towards your goal. Think positively and take positive steps. However, before taking any step, analyze the situation once again as to whether that step is appropriate or not.

To top it all, enjoy the work you do while reaching towards your goal. That way you will not feel the pressure and even reach your goal happily.

Reasons for Not Achieving Desired Results

All of us have some goal in our lives or the other. It varies from one individual to the other. Earning money, losing weight, getting a contract, getting back with ex-boyfriend are some common goals set by people in their daily lives. Some people achieve their targets easily while others do not achieve their goals even if they try for many years. There may be some reasons for not achieving the desired results. Listed below are some reasons as to why people do not get success.

  • Procrastinating is one of the major reasons why people do not achieve their desired goals. It often happens that you dream of something, but never set into action to achieve your dreams. Alternatively, even if you chalk out a plan, you constantly push it back day after day giving some excuses. Moreover, when you start the action, you find it is too late. Thus, you end up losing to achieve your dream forever.

You do not achieve the goals set, as you do not have a foolproof plan. Even though it may seem perfect to you, but in reality, it is not. This is because when you chalk out the plan, you make it standing from your plan. You do not think of what is going to happen when you reach the goal. Thus, the plan is one-sided. Therefore, when you work on the plan and move ahead, you have to update your plan continually as your progress towards your goal.

  • You spend most of your time thinking about the problem and fearing the problem. Instead of spending this time wondering, work out for a solution to the problem. Seek the help of others, if needed. However, do not let others pacify you in this time rather seek solutions from them.

When the slightest of things do not work in your favor, you obfuscate everything. Obfuscations lead to complicated situations and do no good. Therefore, be calm during these times, only then things will start working in your favor again.

  • Do not set for something less deserving. Once you do that, you tend to divert from your goal and take wrong decisions further ahead in life. You start feeling that you are not capable of achieving any higher dreams.

A majority of people does these mistakes and do not achieve the results they desire. Therefore, do everything keeping a calm and optimistic mind.

Set a Goal to Get the Desired Results

Many people want to achieve success without putting in any effort. However, they may appear to succeed for a short time, but in the long run, they are bound to fail. One can only achieve success through sheer hard work.

Setting a goal in life is essential for a person who wants to be successful in life. To be successful in life, first, you have to do is set your priorities straight. You need to know exactly what tasks you want to give more importance. After you set your priorities, chalk out a time table where you can write down the daily work you have done. This will make you more systematic in setting your goals.

  • Next, focus on the task you are doing. Generally, it happens that you end up losing focus on a task if you work on it for long hours. It is not your fault, it is a habit of human beings or we can say that it is a state of the human brain. Therefore, it is advisable to take short breaks in between the tasks to keep your brain focused on the task. Also, do not keep tasks pending, as when they pile up, you tend to divert from the goal.
Setting goals

Setting goals

Take actions when obligatory. Imbibe decision-making capabilities in yourself. This is a very important factor to get the desired results or achieve success in life. If you fear to take any risks or actions when it calls for, then possibilities are you may divert from the goal that you set. To achieve success, you have to undertake certain risks at times. If you undertake the risk and do not succeed, then many people lose all hope and sets into a depression state. However, you must always have faith in yourself to do better next time. Also, when undertaking a risk, keep a second back up a plan to enforce that can help you to come out of the situation if you do not succeed.

  • Thus, reaching your goal is all about your planning and actions are taken. It is easy to get the desired results if you have a proper plan to execute. Set your eyes and heart for something to get it. The craving from the heart that can give you the thing you want. Therefore, it is imperative to listen to your inner voice while out to achieve the desired results.

 

Tips on Goal Setting

Are you frustrated when nothing works out in your favor? Do you get depressed when you do not achieve the desired success? When you do not get the results you desire, then you tend to look for tips everywhere that can help you to achieve your goals.

Here are some strategies that you can apply to set your goals and get the desired results.

  1. To achieve your goals, visualize your dreams and goals. Dreaming your goals will give you the willingness to fetch the goal. Generally, a person who does not dream has no goals in their life. Therefore, dreaming is the start of your realization of your goal.
  2. Think of the steps you can take to achieve your goal. Consulting others might help you a little, but ultimately you have to take the decision yourself. This is because you know yourself the best. Others can just guide you on which are the right ways, but you have to know the best way suitable to you to achieve goals.
  3. Next, do not promise anyone but yourself to achieve the goals when you have found the right way to start. Promising others often leads to breaking of promises, but if you promise yourself, then your inner voice constantly reminds you of the promise.
  4. After promising, sketch out a timetable that you wish to follow. However, it is advisable to change the routine when boredom sets in. Changing timetables will give you more energy and a new outlook to start afresh with a positive mind. Moreover, changing timetables also lets you find your previous faults and shows you a better and right way. The timetable should also reflect the time you are taking in doing certain work. Say, if the timetable says that you have to complete a unit of any subject in 30 days, then you must do so. Time is an important factor when desiring results.

Think of innovative ideas to make your goal achievement process easier. Innovative methods will also give you the energy to complete tasks.

Keep optimistic about your dreams. Optimism plays an important role in getting results. The more optimistic you are, the faster you are likely to reach your goals. An optimistic attitude motivates you to get the desired results and shows you the right way to success.

Finally, be dedicated to the work you do. Dedication can bring a lot of accuracy to your work and make it perfect.

Thus, follow these tips firmly to set your goals and reach the point of success.

Always believe in yourself, even if nobody does anymore and don’t give up the fight for your dreams!

 

With love and respect,

Tunde

Why should you give blogging a try?

Why should you give blogging a try?

Ever wonder why most all of the teens today are addicted to the internet? Well, it has everything a young exploring mind needs. From browsing the net for document researches, shopping, cooking, gaming, chat, and a whole bunch of stuff going inside a website’s offer.                                                                                                                           Yep, all of these including one secluded part of a teens life which is their journal. Don’t believe me? Then try hooking up on the internet now and see how much there is that is available today.

Aside from being a window for the readers to see what’s on the author’s mind, a blog lets him elaborate on facts or scribble out whatever idea that pops out his head. A blog is a simplified term for “web blog”-a new generation medium for writing articles, essays, statements and the like.

It’s usually composed of texts or sometimes pictures and multimedia topics. If you’re tired of jotting down every single detail of your life’s worth on paper, why not try the new fad of journalism which is blogging. Blogging means sharing a comment of life through the internet. It is an up-to-date source. A sequence of events. A timeless exhibit of creativity and style. An outlet for one’s self.

The popularity of blog comes in different areas. Anyone can write anything that comes out of his head. Whether a walk on a sunny day or a dip into California ‘s wild waters, it serves as a diary and is readily updated. What’s good about blogging is that it is not bounded by editing and is cheap.

The commercial velocity of a blog depends on a writer’s instinct to create a worthy article. Either formative or informative, rational or irrational, for as long as the readers can visualize what the author has posted your blog’s a hit.

Technical specialties and skills, not necessary. Publishing freedom, an advantage. All that is needed is for you to have a witty mind, a desire to share ideas and part of your story, and a bit of knowledge to toggle into the internet. Grammatical errors are welcome. No editors and publishing companies to please. Journalism without rules or guidelines to follow and what’s best is that readers could post a comment or be inspired to write one too.

Blogging wouldn’t be difficult if you have the right recipes. Not just a simple-text article, a blog may be enhanced or converted into other types like an audio blog or a video blog. Nowadays, blogs are more sophisticated and advanced. The element of a blog starts with a good and captivating headline down to the author’s profile. Included herewith are the blog post, permalink (a combined term for “permanent link”), and the reader’s comments.

A friend of mine is a blogger. She would entertain herself by posting blogs on her web page. She told me that blogging is an advantage for her to speak up to the world of the things that’s keeping her shut. And I quote, “I am an internet junkie”. I am not a big fan of journalism or any kind of writing.

But it all changed when the blogging fever entered internet society. I appreciated it more when I felt everything that’s written are real and not just a compulsory decoy to deliver information. Right then, I became a part of a bigger picture.

Trapped in a world of unwanted opinions, blogging is a benefit. But everything has its consequences. Blogs are much harder to manage than that of the broadcast media. In politically sensitive issues, blogs can be considered as a political misfit. Results are triggered through suppression of bloggers and punishments were made. Another important case is the issue of defamation and liability.

Nevertheless, blogging is still out there. So if you’re the type who has the snap for writing, give blogging a shot. You never know how much it would contribute to the society and your pockets.
In the next couple of blog post, I will show you some tips for earning money with blogging to give yourself the freedom to do what you’re enjoying!

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